Are you Self-Aware?

Are you self-aware? Before you answer, let me remind you what it means to be “SELF-AWARE”.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why is it important for all of us to have self-awareness? Well, the University of Warwick says it best. “Self-Awareness is important because when we have a better understanding of ourselves, we are able to experience ourselves as unique and separate individuals. We are then empowered to make changes and to build on our areas of strength as well as identify areas where we would like to make improvements.”

Now answer the question…Are you Self-Aware?

If you are one of the few that are lucky enough to be Self-Aware leave a comment below letting me know how you cultivate and practice Self-Awareness. For those of us that are not or are working on becoming “Self-Aware”; let me tell you, it is a journey and requires you to dig deep into who you are.

The hardest part for me on my journey to becoming fully Self-Aware is tapping into my thoughts and views about myself and confronting them, but by the grace of God, I am starting to see myself clearly and really learn who I am. It is truly amazing to learn who you are in a whole new way. So if you are currently on your journey of Self-Awareness or are looking for guidance on how to become Self-Aware, I will be sharing my journey along with tips and exercises that have helped me become more of who I truly am.

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It Starts With You

Hi Beautiful!

it’s time for a change, what’s holding you back?

Guess what? I know I know exactly what’s holding you back. It’s not money, it’s not timing, it’s not others holding you back, it’s not a million other excuses that you are probably trying to come up with right now.

What’s holding you back is YOU! Let’s just take a step back and think about it. You will really need to let go, clear your mind, and step out of your comfort zone and really do a Self Evaluation and become “Self Aware”.

Vanessa’s quick Note: When I feel like this or become aware of myself coming up with a million excuses as to why I am unable to do something; I take a step back, pray and ask God for clarity, and meditate.

It’s time for you to get out of your own way and start living life as you are now. Take 5 minutes out of your day and ask yourself these 5 questions, and allow yourself to feel and really evaluate what is going on in your mind and with your emotions as you answer these questions.

  1. Who are you?
  2. What are your values?
  3. Do you care what people think of you?
  4. What drives you or what motivates you?
  5. Do you love yourself?

If you are stuck, feel free to email me at LivingLifeAsIAm@gmail.com and I can help you through.

Now think about where you want to be in life in as much detail as possible. If you need to write it down, go ahead and write it down. Think about it as if it were the life you are living now. Feel it, live it, dream it.

Now that you have done a quick evaluation of who you are, what is holding you back from living your life as you picture it?

Once you have the answers to these questions, you can now start taking the steps necessary to get to the life that you want, all while living your best life as you are right now. It Starts with You!

Intro to Vanessa and LLAIA

 

If this is your first time here at LivingLifeAsIAm.com, let me introduce myself. My name is Vanessa and through LivingLifeAsIAm.com I hope to inspire and motivate you to live your #BestLife in your current reality.Now that you know what my goal is, let me give you a little more insight into who I am or who I was.

For as long as I can remember, I lived life day by day with a smile on my face at all times. If I was having a bad day or had a million things on my mind, no one could ever tell. I was always known as the always this “positive”, “happy”, “giving” person and I allowed people to take advantage of me in ways that I never realized.

Growing up I never wanted to upset anyone, let anyone down, or be a burden on anyone. You can say I was a “people pleaser”. I cared so much about what people thought of me and really valued their opinion of me, and of course, I wanted their perception of me to be positive. It got to a point in my adulthood that it really took a toll on me physically and mentally. But let me tell you…If I knew back then what I know now, I could be running the world.

As I reached adulthood, I truly felt like something was missing and I felt so empty. I went through a really tough time that gave me so much anxiety, and I would constantly be playing a reel of these questions through my head constantly.

  1. Am I good enough?
  2. Why Me?
  3. Is this where I am supposed to be in life?
  4. Am I pretty enough?
  5. Am I smart enough?
  6. Should I work harder?
  7. Why do they have such a better quality of life than I do?

It wasn’t until I got married, actually, it wasn’t until years into my marriage that I was able to just “Let Go and Let God”. Literally.

Mind you, I grew up going to church. Or shall I say, going through the motions of going to church with my family. I really never understood what was going on in church. I could never really follow what was going go on. I just knew that Jesus is the son of God, Jesus died on the cross for our sins, and I knew God spoke to me at the age of 10 and at that time I got baptized. And of course like most people growing up getting into the pre-teen and teenage years going to church and building my relationship with God was just not important as Cheerleading or being the best Dancer I could be.

It wasn’t until I met my husband that I would develop a whole new understanding of who God is, what Christianity really means, and who I am in the image of God. My everyday struggles slowly melted away as I grew my relationship with God, things in my life became so clear.

I will go so much deeper and open up much more as I share with you all how to live your best life where you are now.

I hope you enjoyed getting to know me just a little bit in this post. Through this blog/website, there will be support, fun, love, and all things positive shared weekly. There will be a few series that will be fun and for entertainment when you just need a break. There will be a few series sharing helpful information on how to get out of your own mind, how to be your best self, how to get the job that you want, how to start a virtual assistant business from home and be successful, etc.

I hope that as I begin to share with you, you will share with me and the other readers so that we can grow a beautiful and safe community for like-minded people.

If there is anything that you want me to write about or any questions that you would like me to answer please leave a comment below or email me at LivingLifeAsIAm@gmail.com

Hello and Goodbye, Time for something New

Goodbye VivaciouslySavvy.com and HELLO LivingLifeAsIAm.com!

It’s a sad, sad day, it’s time for me to say goodbye and farewell to VivacioulsySavvy.com *tear*. It’s been “real” girl, I am going to miss you so much…

VivaciouslySavvy.com is no more. When I started my journey of blogging, I felt like Vivacious and Savvy summed me up in two words. But as time has gone on, I have realized that I AM so much more and have so much to offer. I have grown up so much since I started blogging, and it is now time to move on and “grow up”. With that being said *drum roll please* my blog name is changing to…

Living Life As I Am

The new blog URL is www.LivingLifeAsIAm.com. This blog is a full-on Lifestyle blog centered around my life and my love for all things Faith, DIY, Beauty, Lifestyle, and Living the Life I have grown to Love. With this blog, I hope to help and inspire you to live the life you love and tap into your creativity along the way.

I hope you all enjoy the new look and the new content that is to come. If you have any questions that you would like me to answer in a blog post, have any suggestion, or would like to collab, please feel free to email me at livinglifeasiam@gmail.com.

 

 

What Qualities do you look for in a Friend?

Friendship

As I am getting older; I find myself being extremely picky when it comes to finding friends who I actually call my friends, and who I allow to have the “Friend” title in my life. I have learned over the years that not everyone who you think is your friend is a “Real” friend. So at this point and time in my life, I do not allow anyone in my life that brings any kind of negativity. Sometimes when you are working on bettering yourself and trying to be in a positive place living a positive life, it is necessary to weed out anything or anyone in your life that is draining your positivity.

After being let down and disappointed by so many people that I thought were my “friends” or who I thought had my best interest at heart, has caused me to look at friendship differently than I have in the past. I have become completely guarded with my feelings, and I have built huge walls made of brick and titanium so that I can protect myself against everyone.

In the past I found myself being to open, giving, supportive, and loyal to friends who didn’t appreciate what I had to offer as a friend. I truly felt like so many people took full advantage of my friendship and really did not return the love that I had for them as my friends. I was that person in a friendship that when I felt completely comfortable, I would open myself up and I would do anything for those people that I called friends.

Today; it so sad to say that I currently do not have anyone in my life that I would call a “Friend”, don’t get me wrong I do have many acquaintances, just no one that I feel I can call a “True Friend”. I really do miss having a friend that I can talk to whenever, laugh with, hang out with, etc. I am always actively looking a “Real Friendship”; it just may take time for me to let down my walls with people that I meet. But if they are someone that I know that I can build a lifelong friendship with, then the walls will start to drop little by little and not as fast as they did in the past. Some of the qualities that I am looking for in a “Real Friend” are someone who…

  • Is Real, I have met enough fake people to know who is real and honest and who is not.
  • Is caring.
  • Is inspiring and enjoys life.
  • Has a positive attitude at least 80% of the time.
  • Can laugh.
  • Strives to do and be better.
  • Is trust worthy.
  • Is loyal.
  • Can have a cocktail or 2 or 3.
  • Is not judgmental of others
  • Has some of the same interests as me.

I know, I know, this may seem like somewhat of a long list. But this is the first time that I have actually sat down and thought about the qualities that I would like in a friend. All of the things that I am looking for in a friendship are qualities that I like to think that I offer in a friendship as well.

I believe that it is best to have quality in friends as opposed to the quantity of friends.

I would love to know what you look for in friends/friendships, so hit me on the snap and snap me the qualities that you look for in a friend/friendship.

SnapChat me @VivaciousSavvy

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Embrace New Beginnings

New Beginnings

Hey guys,

After a much needed mental break, I’m back…

I just wanted to give you all a quick update on what has been going on with me lately. For the last couple of weeks I have not been blogging as much as I would have liked too, and if you haven’t noticed there has not been any “Get Your Mind Right Monday” posts for the past few weeks (CRAZY, I KNOW!).

At the beginning of March there was a huge unexpected bomb dropped on me (and my friends/Co-Workers), I mean this came out of left field for me. I personally felt like I had been hit by a train physically and mentally and I was forced to make a decision as to what my next move was going to be for my family and I. I guess this just goes to show that you can’t get to comfortable in your current situation. I am a true believer that when God closes one door, another one opens with bigger and better opportunities.

One season of my life is coming to an end and a new one is beginning.

Don’t get me wrong, even though now I know that I am destined to accomplish great things in this next season of my life, my stress level had been off the charts for the last few weeks. I literally had to force myself to snap out of it, put a smile on my face, and take on the days as if everything was all good (I am pretty good at faking it until I make it). So I say all of that to say this, “I am only human”.

I was stuck in a mental rut, and it has taken me weeks to get back to a positive mindset. It has been so hard for me to stop focusing on what is happening in the present and focus on the positive that is to come in the near future (if that makes any sense at all). And I believe the reason for me having a “mental breakdown/blockage” is because I allowed myself to open up and get so comfortable with everything and everyone in my current situation, and I just have not been ready to let it all go.

So as I finally start to except that this season is over, I am slowly allowing myself to embrace the change and embrace all of the amazing opportunities that are coming my way. It is time to stop stressing and dwelling on the negative of the situation and really take my life head on and run with it in faith.

I am too blessed to be stressed!

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